You have got to start thinking differently to think outside the box and to what you are doing now.You will need to gain more knowledge which will necessitate change and therefore that change will involve risk, it certainly will mean stepping out of your comfort-zone that you’ve been stuck in for the last number of years. Stepping out from the known into the unknown always takes a great deal of courage and I do sincerely hope that you’re strong enough and forward thinking enough to come out of your comfort-zone; because if you don’t, you’re going to start falling behind in changing what you’re really after. So therefore the tasks and all the hard work you’ve been doing so far; could be for nothing.We say in business that; “if the business is not expanding; it’s standing still”. Life is exactly the same, so to move on you have to think outside the box and you need to take a good grip of the situation and be prepared to fail, yes fail. If you fail at least you can say you’ve tried. Very often you need to fail in order to succeed, don’t be ashamed to fail, the only people who will be awkward with you are those who are jealous and too frightened to try anything themselves. You now understand that you’re able to pick yourself up dust yourself down because you have found a new depth a new pro-active attitude toward life and have stated that you’re not going to stand still and just tread-water! You’re now saying to yourself, “I will… I can… I am, because I’m now living each day with excitement, full of self-belief and confidence. I’m now waking up every day bursting with energy and full of enthusiasm for the day ahead.Whether you’re self-employed, working by yourself or working for someone else, you will very often stop when you reach a place that you feel you maybe need to change. This is when it’s very important that you should take a grip of the situation and yourself, start digging in and being extremely “Pro-active” then; saying aloud “Change, what changes do I need to make”? What you should start doing is to embrace the change, after all, change is good for us and change means you’re now forward thinking!Change the way you use words and phrasesAn effective way to change your life is to change your attitude and mindset. One way is to remove certain words and phrases from your vocabulary and replace them with more positive ones. It will take time to remove the negative ones because of the length of time you’ve been using them. Also you will have got so used to them but once you start using new positive words and phrases you will be surprised how people you know will start to react in a different way towards you. You will also start to look at the world around you in a completely different way. Your whole life will change without you having to physically change everything.Personal change!
We should understand that personal change is both an internal and an external experience. It stems from a change in mindset and then extends outwards from there. We are constantly moving toward some things and away from others but in order for any noticeable change to occur, we must pass through a series of tipping points in succession.Clutter!
When we set our minds on changing our lives we should remember that our minds are full of clutter from the past. Have you tried to fill a suit-case when you’re catching a plane to go on holiday? It is completely different to when you’re going away in the car! Imagine trying to put the same amount of things into your case when you’re flying, with all the weight restrictions. So let’s look at a blank sheet of paper:
You’re using your mind to envisage a fresh start.
You’re limiting your direction to the “here and now”.
It encourages us to start redesigning our lives for the future.
An example from my past!
After being diagnosed in 2007 with Chronic Myeloid Leukaemia my life completely changed. I needed to look at things through a fresh set of glasses. At first I could not accept the situation, the realisation that things had changed and would never be the same again, I would have to put a lot of things on hold. For a short time I seemed to be in limbo, not able to make decisions, not moving in any direction, I was struggling with what seemed a complete sense of loss. I realised that I would never be able to do all the things I loved doing.However, after a few months of visits to many different eminent doctors and finally a professor at the Royal Liverpool Teaching Hospital a Professor Richard Clark, I eventually had a major shift in the direction and attitude I had and understood that things had to move on from the negative thinking I was having; to a positive attitude with new direction and purpose. This is when I changed my direction to write on a clean sheet of paper; I needed to just do something different; anything was possible. What I had to do was “Empower” myself to do it, go in a new direction, make a personal change to my life.It was at this point that I stopped being a “Negaholic” and stopped thinking about what had been, what was in the past and start to pro-actively think of new things that I could do. I now understood that what I had done was to accept the situation for what it was and said to myself “the past is gone and the future is ahead of me”; for however much time I have. Yes, what I was doing was to remove that “clutter” clearing a space for the new me. What was happening was; I rekindled that spark that was inside me which had lain dormant since being told that I had developed Chronic Myeloid Leukaemia, I removed the mindless clutter from the past and now had the opportunity to move forward with a positive direction which in itself was very empowering.Creating a new direction!
As I had always been a person who from a very young age had understood that if I wanted to succeed, I had to keep fully aware of what was needed to get ahead, that meant; CPD (Continuous Personal Development). So change for me was to say to myself, I want to write a daily “Inspirational thoughts for the Day”. To do this I had to build a weblog, I had never done this sort of thing before; other people built websites for me! I changed my attitude and positively said; I can do it. I did and launched my “Thought for the Day” officially in May 2009 and in October 2013 it’s being followed by over 10,000 visitors throughout the world per month and increasing.What could I pass on to people?
Throughout my business life I was always inspiring others to do their best and empowered people to work hard with the knowledge and understanding they had. So I thought that I should start “mentoring and coaching” people, which seemed the best way that I could give back something to entrepreneurial and up and coming people who wanted to climb the ladder and better themselves. This I did and I do my very best to pass on all I’ve learned over my life to as many people as possible who WANT to listen.A few tips that could help!Change your job
Is your job getting you down or is job-satisfaction a problem? then you need to find a solution. If it is, then you could think about changing it or changing the job role within the business you’re in. If the only thing that is preventing you from looking for something you’ll really enjoy more; then you need to take action NOW. If only more people put as much effort into looking for new positions as they do complaining about it then they really would make major changes to their lives, which obviously in turn would be far better for them and their families, as well as their health and keep their work/life balance correct and in balance. After all, the place where you work; is the place where you spend the largest proportion of your time, so it’s important to try and be as happy there as you can be.Do voluntary work
You could think about volunteering, to simply give up a few hours a week to help an elderly person do their shopping or may be just cutting the grass in their garden. I feel that when you realise and perhaps feel more fortunate than others, you sometime forget others less fortunate than yourself. So when you do any charity work it will have a profound and lasting effect on you.”During my life I’ve tried to do one sort of voluntary work or another. When I was quite young I was a volunteer for “Ogwen Valley Mountain Rescue team” in the Snowdon Mountains and then from 1974 till 1992 I was a crew member of the “New Brighton Lifeboat” Wirral in the mouth of the River Mersey.” I find when I volunteer to help others it does make me feel good about myself, when I’m doing something practical helping others. Volunteering also inevitably means having greater opportunities to meet many more like minded people.Change your habits
Being regular and keeping to a schedule can be a safe option and perhaps a little boring. However, every now and again try changing something in your schedule, such as taking a different route or using a different mode of transport. If you’re generally a person who says “sorry, I’m doing (something)” on Monday because I usually do such and such… Then make a stand and change your routine and try to do things spontaneously.Realistic goals setting
You always need to have realistic goals written down to follow. I’ve always worked on the premise that when I have a plan to follow I complete the task faster and more accurately. The goal may just be a simple thing such as fixing that swinging gate or painting that window your partner has been on at you to fix for ages. If you don’t have any goals to look forward to, then you will become lazy and will bumble along, effectively just living to work rather than working to live. Having a goal or target to work towards I’ve found has always kept me motivated and helps keep me from just drifting along and dropping into a rut; so make sure you always have a goal in mind. Get your life / work balance in sync.Do something that scares you
If there’s something that you’ve perhaps always fancied doing but have kept putting off because you’ve been too scared to do it, then just go for it! There are many people out there who have jumped out of a plane and described jumping out as a “life-changing experience” and then have gone on to complete challenge after challenge!In my life I’ve faced many challenges, some have been scary and some have been frightening! I have to say not all have been through my “off beat recreation habits” a number have been through business; which I will call “calculated risks taking”. However, there’s nothing that quite makes you feel as good about yourself as overcoming a single fear and completing something that is totally out of your “comfort zone” something that you never thought you would or could do.Write a book or articles
When you start writing on your own it inevitably makes you think very hard about what you want to write about. It will obviously include those things that have been good in your life so far as well as those that haven’t. When I thought about writing a book I naturally thought because I’d been in business for over 45 years I would write about that subject. However, I changed direction and wrote “Success the choice is yours” which although not the success I’d hoped for the important thing has been it has helped me and it has helped some people I never knew get their lives together. So, yes, please reassess your life and think about the direction in which you want to go. You may just find it’s a good way of reinforcing your self-belief and confidence.Start becoming more active
Has your lifestyle only consisted of “work/home then home/work” then relaxing in front of the television of an evening? Have you been able to play with the children? Bathed them? Read them stories at bed time? If not; then you should come out of that malaise and change you ways. That comfort zone is very pleasant to be in but hey, why not start going for a walk with the family? I am suggesting that you do more active things. You could introduce exercise into your day simply by walking a little more; for example start taking stairs instead of the lift. Think positively about your health and do some rigorous exercise, then it’s more likely that you’ll start feeling a lot healthier in a short space of time.